A little less serious
Name: Andie Towner
Where are you right now- tell us what you can see?
On the couch and in my home in Port Melbourne, watching a taped episode of Sex & The City whilst having a green tea.
What did you have for breakfast?
A coffee and green tea, is that bad? I was in a rush!
What are you usually doing at 11pm?
I go to bed at 9:30pm so most likely sleeping as I get up most mornings at 4:45am.
What is something most people don’t know about you?
I have anxiety. I’m quiet shy and only confident around people I know well. I find most people intimidating. People often refer to me as having ‘resting bitch face’ but once they get to know me I’m actually just a big dork who doesn’t take themselves too seriously.
A little more serious
Tell us a bit about your story? What defines you?
I got bullied a lot in high school. Although I was in what you would call the ‘popular’ group I was still judged and bullied for being tall, lanky and having abnormally long legs. I had low self-esteem, was insecure and most likely had a small dose of depression. I remember being called ‘twin towers, tree and tower’ by people in the schoolyard whom Id never met before. I remember someone once writing, “Andie Towner’s legs grow an inch a month” on a table at school. I think the biggest thing was no one fought my battles for me. It did really make me into the person who I am today. I feel like I’m now a pretty strong person who doesn’t take crap from anyone! I found the thing I liked (blogging @snobfashionblog) and just ran with it. I did my own thing and didn’t worry about what others thought of me.
What inspires you?
I think women who are down to earth and who let their true selves shine through. I’m pretty over the ‘highlight’ reel of instagram and materialism of it all. I feel that I’m starting to drift away from that and follow strong, independent women who are successful in the way that they share an important message to other women.
What has been the biggest challenge you have faced in your life?
Aniexty!! I’ve always been a pretty highly-strung and stressed person. Although others might find that I’m relaxed and carefree on the outside inside is a whole other story. Last year, with stresses from moving into my boyfriends and work stress I really crumbled into a deep whole. I remember driving and I couldn’t focus on anything and I had to pull over and I just burst into tears. I felt like I had a lump in my throat the size of a tennis ball for months. I remember that I couldn’t be left alone especially when sleeping it would just hit me all of a sudden. At work during my lunch breaks I had to lay down and do breathing exercises otherwise I just couldn’t focus or breathe. It felt like I was going to die! I went to so many doctors and felt like they didn’t really understand. They prescribed me with sleeping tablets, which didn’t help. To me I wasn’t anymore stressed or worried in my head but I was presenting all these physical symptoms of a highly anxious person.
How did you overcome that challenge?
I haven’t overcome it yet. It still hits me from time to time but its not as bad as what it was last year. I’m trying to remember to just slow the F down. I don’t need to get up at 4:45 to fit in exercise for work; it doesn’t matter if the house isn’t clean and so what if I’m a few minutes late for an appointment or skip that workout? I have an ‘A type’ personally which means I’m a perfectionist who always needs to keep busy. I’m going to slow down, go for walks instead of runs and do those intense workouts. My body is starting to store fat because its in a constant state of stress (fight or flight). Doing these high intensity workouts at the moment is something my body doesn’t need so I’m going to slow down my workouts and do Pilates, Barre and also go for long walks. I’m also going to take the time to just sit on the couch and watch mindless tv without constantly scrolling on my phone. Anything to relax and wind down. I also went off the pill 3 months ago after listening to a podcast by ‘The wellness women’. It said how bad it actually is for you. I have yet to receive my period and this could be due to a number of reasons, anxiety, stress and poor gut health (I get very bad bloating). So I’m booked in to see a naturopath rather than a doctor because they treat the problem not just the symptoms.
What is the biggest lesson you have learnt?
Where to start? There is so much! My mum was a single parent- she put her needs second to make everything possible for me. She taught me how to be resilient, caring, keep your sense of humor, be confident and independent. She taught me how to refuse to let people treat me badly and how to stand up for myself. I also learnt how to be true to myself, live in the moment and how important time is.
What would you tell your 15year old self?
Don’t worry about the boys and stop wasting your time with the ones who treat you like shit! You’ll eventually find someone!
What is your biggest life tip?
I read this quote once and It just really resonated with me ‘Be thankful for what you have and you will end up having more. But if you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never ever have enough.
What do you think is the biggest issue facing women today?
Social media and comparing yourself to others! I struggle with it daily. How many hot, skinny, no cellulite women can there be? How does everyone afford these designer bags??! I compare myself so much so I use Instagram to post but rarely scroll through my feed. It makes me feel very bad about myself.
What do you think is the biggest opportunity for women today?
To make something of themselves in the workplace. Whether it be starting their own business or becoming some sort of entrepreneur. Women can pick something they are passionate about and do something about it.
What message do you want to share with your community?
Social media is both a blessing and a curse. They are just highlight reels. People seem a lot happier and like they have their shit together. Meanwhile I am on my 3rd day of binge watching Netflix in my dressing gown. People need to remember these are the ‘highlights’ of someone’s life. This is what they want people to see. Do not fall victim and do not compare yourself. No ones life if perfect.
Finish the sentence This Is me …and I’m trying my best just like everyone else!